So, it’s been about 6 weeks since I’ve last posted anything. Life has been a bit overwhelming, but so much of it has been so amazing. There are many life moments over the past few weeks that’ll make future posts.
But, I hate to leave the subject of encouraging one another hanging. Previously, I stated that we should (1) answer the “who” questions and (2) see the good in those people. Since then, I picked up a great book, pictured above. Go to Amazon and get a copy. It’s a GREAT resource on the subject.
In addition to what I’ve said already, it’ll help you see the value of:
- Greeting one another
- Short, meaningful conversations
- Telling stories
- Praying for others
- Following up with others
So, get a copy. Check back soon for other posts about life, and hopefully, you’ll find some help here.
See the good.
In part 1 of this series, we asked (and hopefully answered) the “who” questions. What next? Three simple words: see the good. All too often, we overly focus on the things we like the least in ourselves and in others. I regularly meet with a guy, who, every time he comes into the office, he goes on and on about how bad of a person he is. He’s on the “bottom of life” as some say. And sure, he has his problems. Who doesn’t?
His biggest problem is that he just doesn’t see any good in himself. Now, let’s be clear. The Bible says that no one IS good except God alone (See Mark 10:18 or Luke 18:19). That’s why we ALL need a savior, a sacrifice from the only one who IS good. But, when we bring the language of “good” back down to our human paradigm, we can see some elements of goodness in everybody. At a minimum, every person is created in the image of God, and certainly that is good. Right?
Back to the man who doesn’t see any good in himself. He’s actually a Christian, in relationship with the God who created him. And, he loves his wife. And, he loves his kids. And, he has a soft heart of compassion for others. And, he regularly serves others. And, every time he comes in, I have to remind him of these things because he only sees his faults, and they haunt him.
What is good in you?
As you reflect on the people in your answers to the “who” questions, what good is in them?
Now that I’m at the end of this post, I feel like there are three more words that must be added. Speak the good.
Six simple words: See the good. Speak the good.
In that sermon that I preached a few weeks ago, I explained that the Bible tells us that we need to CONSIDER how we can stimulate others to love and good deeds. We need to CONSIDER how we can encourage one another. Those thoughts are right out of Hebrews 10:24-25.
When you CONSIDER how to do something, you make a PLAN. But, what are the components of an encouragement plan?
Step 1: Answer the “who” questions.
- Who do you have in your life that you can encourage?
- Who do you give voice to in your life to encourage you?
It’s most efficient when the answers to the above questions are the same people, but it’s not necessary.
If you can’t answer the questions above, do something about it. My recommendation is to commit to a church and meet with people until those questions get answered (Hebrews 10:25). If you are visiting churches, look to see if they help create environments for you to develop relationships of significance. If they aren’t, move on, and try a different place.
What are your answers to the “who” questions?